Georgia Family Lawyer Highlights Article on Divorce and Children

As a Georgia family lawyer, I have seen my fair share of courtroom battles. The saddest of these place the children of the marriage squarely in the middle. A recent news article explains how parents can avoid doing that. The article emphasizes that parents should remember:

  • They will be connected forever. Parents must stay in touch with one another as co-parents and then as co-grandparents.
  • They must maintain boundaries between adult problems and children. Children should be allowed to remain unburdened by adult problems. Children lack the coping skills and intellectual ability to understand adult concerns. They also must process their own feelings regarding the divorce.
  • They must make transitions smoothly. Children get stressed when they are shuffled from home to home. Transitions should be brief and respectful. Children should not be asked to relay messages back and forth.
  • They must be flexible. Parents must cooperate. Life changes, and parents should be mature enough to make some adaptations when necessary.
  • They should deliver solid parenting. The quality of parenting can suffer during a divorce. A parent might be more focused on issues related to the divorce and on adjusting to a new phase in life. Parents should try to be the best parents they can be.

Our Marietta, Georgia family law firm handles both litigated and collaborative divorces. Contact the Georgia family law attorneys at Georgia Family Law: Worrall Law LLC for more information. You may reach us by calling 770.425.6060 or by filling out an online contact form.

Divorce: Helping your child cope with the breakup

More than a million children a year experience their parents’ divorce. It’s a stressful time for the entire family, full of changes for everyone involved. Children are creatures of habit and routine, so divorce often turns their world upside down.

The good news is that you can make your child’s adjustment to these changes much easier, simply by the way you choose to interact with your spouse.

How to tell them

It’s best if you and your spouse can tell your children about the divorce together. Make sure the children understand that you both still love them and will take care of them. Speak honestly and simply, and skip the ugly details.

Use simple phrases like: "Your mom (or dad) and I have been having trouble getting along, so we think it’s best for us to live apart."

Anxiety and anger

Initially, children may be most interested in concrete things, such as where they’ll live and what school they’ll attend. Try to make arrangements that disrupt their routines as little as possible. Even if things must change drastically, establish new routines and then stick to them. This helps children of all ages feel more secure.

Your child may respond to the stress of divorce with strong emotions — anxiety, grief, depression or even relief. But the most common response is anger. This anger may turn inward, resulting in depression and withdrawal, or it may turn outward and cause behavioral problems.

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