The following post is by Maryland attorney, James Gross, author of the Maryland Divorce Legal Crier Blog:

A friend of mine was going through a divorce. Her husband hired a very aggressive attorney. Alright, let’s not mince words. He hired a shark.

My friend, against my advice, decided to fight fire with fire. She thought she needed an equally aggressive attorney to protect her from her husband’s attorney. So she hired a barracuda.

The attorneys argued with each other, wrote lots of scathing letters, gathered documents, conducted mean spirited conferences and telephone conferences.

After six months, legal bills amounted to thirty thousand dollars on each side. The parties had made no progress they were still at an impasse.

My friend was running out of money. In desperation, she called her husband and said, “This is getting us nowhere. Let’s get rid of our attorneys and settle our case ourselves.”

And that is what they did.

She learned the hard way. Fighting fire with fire only leads to conflagration. It makes more sense to fight fire with water.